Everybody has good days and bad days, it’s a part of life.
Sometimes we can get bogged down in the bad days and our focus turns to negative thoughts and feelings.
Where our attention goes, energy flows. Often, if we have something negative on our minds, we will most likely find more negativity around the corner.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been stressed or focused on something stupid when something else bad happens, like stubbing my toe. Or I’m in a rush and suddenly can’t find my keys.
I always find it very interesting during these moments, questioning why is this happening. How can it be, that simply the act of thinking, speaking or acting in a negative way is enough to bring even more of that into my life?
Eventually, I learned a very valuable lesson!
There are positive and negative elements to every single thing in this world.
Everything has equal good and bad parts, whether you believe it, or not, is a different story.
Every decision you make, there is a silent, or sometimes not so silent, cost-benefit analysis going on in your head.
If you choose to go to the movies, you can’t be ten pin bowling at the same time.
If you choose to eat the pizza, you can’t have the pasta at the same time.
If you choose to focus on the negative, you can’t focus on the positive and vice versa.
This life is full of paradox and duality. It can get completely overwhelming if you don’t learn how to focus and be present to tune out the negativity.
When you can accept everything in your life – the way it is and the way it isn’t, this moment and the next, and the next – that’s where you find presence and when you’re present, you can choose where to put your focus.
The more we train ourselves to live in the moment, the greater our focus
The more we train ourselves to live in the moment, the greater our focus and the less we allow our mind to dwell on negative thinking.
So, do you want to continue bringing more negativity into your life and the world? Or, do you want something different?
I prefer to put my focus in positive, inspiring and grateful thoughts – some days I’m brilliant at it and others, I’m terrible.
Although, even when I do follow negative thought patterns, I still make the most of it, because every negative thought, action or event has something to learn from.
See the paradox? Out of every negative is something positive, if you work hard enough to see it.
If you want something different but don’t know how, ask yourself this question every day: What am I grateful for today?
This one question has the potential to change your life, if you do the work consistently.
Don’t let your thoughts control you, learn to take control.
I promise that you won’t regret it.